Sibling Rivalry vs Sibling Affection
Biblical truth concerning sibling rivalry …
I. Our flesh is our enemy…
A. In Genesis 4:4-7, Cain was offended. He refused to see that God rejected his offering because He chose not to use a blood sacrifice. Instead of doing what was right, Cain blamed everything on Abel resulting in murder.
o Discuss…Are there any bad attitudes and actions of jealousy, anger, bitterness, etc. that need to be exposed and confessed?
o Key… expose wrong actions and attitudes (sins), confess sins, and deal Biblically with offenses, ASAP.
o Read & meditate I john 1: 8” If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us.( 9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”
B. Esaau & Jacob are another sample of sibling rivalry. The parents fostered it by showing partiality and giving bad counsel. Jacob (his mother) desired Esaau’s 1st born birthright & blessing & father’s affections. Instead of submitting to God these desires, Jacob sinned against his brother by manipulating, stealing, lying, etc.
o Discuss…Are there desires that are causing one of them to hurt or harm the other by isolating, mocking, teasing, slandering, etc.?
o Key… submit/yield your desires (things you think you have a right to) to God and ask Him for the things you need or want.
o Read & meditate … James 4:1 “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?2 You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.”
C. Joseph’s ,dreams, giftings, an obedient life, and favoritism shown by his father were the reasons for his brother’s resentment, hatefulness, and even cruelty by selling him as a slave to Egypt. But God used the evil events for good not only for Joseph but his brothers, family, his nation, and Egypt. Joseph trusted in God for the good and the evil that happened in his life and chose to forgive the offenses of others.
o Discuss… Are there differences, circumstances, talents, appearances, etc., good or evil, that we are not accepting with thanksgiving from God?
o Key… accept with thankfulness all differences, gifts, abilities, circumstances, even bad ones.
o Read & meditate… Psalms 139 )
14 I am fearfully and wonderfully made;…
all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.
17 How precious are your thoughts of me, God!…
23 Search me, God, and know my heart;
test me and know my anxious thoughts.
24 See if there is any offensive way in me,
and lead me in the way everlasting.
II. The world is our enemy…
• The world encourages siblings to drift apart in their affections via age segregated schooling, Sunday schools, youth groups, birthday parties, etc. TV and other media stimulate family discard displaying the norm rather than the supernatural life in Christ. There is a lot of confusion as to what brings happiness…stylish clothes, drugs, alcohol, sex, etc. So that once you are a teen, you are faced with major decisions about God, family, life, etc.. Like a salmon going upstream, these could be very difficult years to get through.
o Discuss…Are you counter acting what the world’s messages are sending by making God, marriage, family, friends, others purposeful, fun, important and exciting?
o Key…foster family time together by cleaning, cooking, watching tv, reading a book, devotions, friends and other families with camping, games, outings, birthdays, church, Women/Men Discipleship groups (13 & up), serving, etc.
o Read & meditate… Hebrews 11:7 “By faith Noah, being warned by God concerning events as yet unseen, in reverent fear constructed an ark for the saving of his household. By this he condemned the world and became an heir of the righteousness that comes by faith.”
III. Satan is our enemy…
• Satan is subtle and deceptive, coming in like waves finding the tiniest cracks in the walls of our lives, homes, etc.. The flood will drown us, if we do not take care of the cracks immediately. Satan’s goal is to “kill, steal, and destroy” our witness and our Godly seed. Do not let Him…be on guard day and night!
o Discuss…Are there any evil influences such as bad lyrics in music; ungodly friends, neighbors, etc,; impure books, magazines, tv, internet, computer, cell phone; bad indulgent habits (cursing, smoking, drinking, gluttony, arguing, etc.) in our homes, churches, marriages, schools, etc. in which they can be defiled?
o Key… unloving, dishonoring, disobedient, indulgent, sinful actions start in our minds and hearts. Examining ourselves truthfully and then getting rid of all the leaven (sins) in our lives and homes till
o Read & meditate … Colossians 2:8 “See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ.”
Practical tips to teach sibling affection instead of rivalry..
1. generously & joyfully share & give. Practice this throughout the day to be considerate; to think of the other person first… quiet when napping, waiting when busy, choosing another toy, using kind words, giving honor where honor is due, respect for others opinions.
2.be content with differences by pointing oout God given age, gender, ability, culture differences. God made us all special & unique!
3. do not show partiality/favoritism…They are not God; the universe does not revolve around them. God loves us all equally without conditions…find something to praise them each about, learn how to serve by training them to pick up after themselves.
4. Forgive one another…this will free them up from guilt & shame & will increase their affections for one another.
5. Be affectionate…say I love you, show love through hugs, kisses, & use manners like thank you & please.
6, pray for one another…love is first required to pray for someone; pray when hurt, sick, sad, happy…pray all the time about everything!
7. bless one another…the ultimate test of love is, instead of cursing or revenge, be or do a blessing…note, chore, gift, special activity.
8. be honest & clear with your feelings & expectations…do not use my sweater without permission. You will wash the dishes; I will sweep the floor.
9; use principle of “reaping & sowing” to teach responsibility & consequences of their actions… time out, take away privilege, add chores, spank without anger or praise, reward, blessing depending on the behavior. Make sure God’s word determines what is right & wrong.
10. ask God for the power to be affectionate & love; it is impossible to do this without God.
In conclusion, God has given us His Word and the Holy Spirit to guide and empower us to walk In Spirit, truth, and love. While our children are still under our roof (headship), it is important that we “prepare our ark for the saving of our households”. “A house divided can not stand.”
Remember: Decluttering (cleansing physically & Spiritually) our lives and homes, having personal and family devotions (worship, prayer, Bible study), walking in the Spirit not the flesh, and training and teaching (discipleship) our children to live for, in, through, and by Christ is essential for healthy Christian living.
Essential: You must “teach them in the way they should go”. To live supernaturally will not come naturally. They must learn how to submit to the Spirit & Word of God.
Prayer: Lord give us courage, perseverance, wisdom, & love to affectionately love our siblings and teach our children to do the same. In Jesus’ name!
Celebrating Spring Holidays as Holy Days!
The word holiday actually means Holy Day (holy is purposefully setting aside a thing, person, time, event, etc. to honor & glorify God.). In the Old Testament this was done by keeping the Sabbath, making stone altars, & celebrating feasts during harvest, victories, extraordinary acts of God, deliverances, etc.. Singing, dancing, reading of the word, giving, sacrifices, serving, acting out of the special events, etc. were used to remind the people, especially the children, of the great deeds God had done.
These are some ideas how we celebrated holy days during the Spring season…
- Decorated the house with Hearts, signs of LOVE, the Cross for Christ’s sacrifice
- Send secret love notes in postal box/bag (foil & hearts) or surprised places during the day…I love you, Be mine, You are special, etc.
- Special meals for the ones you love…heart pancakes, heart sandwiches, heart cookies, heart steak, chocolate strawberries
- Wrote love letter or poem to someone special with decorated heart frame (lace, ribbons, felt, const paper, pic, stickers, etc.);
- Pictionary, Charades, Name that Tune, Trivia, Bingo, Match, etc. games with LOVE theme;
- gift of flower and/or candy to special person.
- Find clovers & make necklaces & bracelets
- Share St Patrick’s testimony of 3 leaf clover (Trinity)
- Wear green
- Decorate house with colorful baskets, toy stuffed lambs, crosses, & eggs
- Decorate eggs with dye, markers, stickers, etc.
- Resurrection celebration… eggs with symbols & Scripture to share (1. Palm leaf 2. cup/cracker 3. Wipe clothe 4. Garden – flower 5. 3 dimes 6. Trial- soldier or rope 7. Thorn 8. King of the Jews 9. dice 10. Cross 11. Rock tomb 12. Empty)
- Contests…egg pocking, egg decorating, egg hunt, fly kites, Easter bonnets, paper airplanes, egg toss, relay races, etc.
- Passover/Lord’s supper…retelling of Passover (look for leaven bread & throw away, eat bitter herbs & bite of roasted lamb)… retelling of Lord’s Supper (confess sins, drink wine/grape juice, eat leaven bread, wash feet)
- Special meal… angel food cake with strawberries & whip cream, roasted lamb/ham, potato salad, Spinach Madeline
When I first became a mother-in- law, I use to laugh & tell my friends that it was harder than I thought and someone should write a book. Now that I have gray hair to prove I have wisdom, I am supposed to wait, be still, & just pray! Those who know me, know that was and is very difficult for me.
SOWing from the book of Ruth: Naomi must have been a good mother-in- law to Ruth…
- The daughter-in- laws pleaded with tears to stay with Naomi after their husbands’ death.
-Ruth chose to be with Naom’s people and worship her God.
-Ruth listened & trusted Naomi’s advice was from God.
-Ruth worked hard & long hours to support her & Naomi.
-Naomi was blessed because she was used by God to convert a Moabitess to her faith in one God, she gained a Godly heritage through this one daughter, & her lineage is that of Jesus’.
Naomi was a good example of discipleship. She used her position as mother-in- law to invest into her dauhter- in- laws life for God’s purposes, not her own.
What I am learning about being a mother-in-law…
*Pray from birth for spouses of your children.
*Be confident that whoever they chose, God will use for good.
*Love, pray, & bless spouse, always.
*Be a disciple of Christ by example & Word.
*Seek Biblical solutions.
*Do not talk bad about the spouse.
*Be a strong advocate for the marriage.
*Be interested in their lives, dreams, etc..
*Ask; do not demand.
*Make sure advice is only advice, and give it only when prayed & necessary.
*Praise & encourage what they are doing right.
*Value the relationship & let them know.
*When wrong, admit it and ask for forgiveness.
*Put yourself in their shoes and try to understand their viewpoint.
*Their spous is #1 in your child’s life, now, support that.
*Respecrt their home or family rules, especially at their house.
*Communicate clearly & kindly expectations; most offenses are failed expectations.
*Offer to help, if you can & should.
*Be a blessing; you will be blessed!
Prayer… Lord make me a faithful disciple who uses every postion you have given me to bring others to a right relationship with You.
Please share what you are learning?
Some great advice for mother-in-laws by Focus on the Family …
Resources recommended for SOW I:6th-12th…
The SOW Curriculum is a unique curriculum for most subjects K-12th, math exculded! The main goal for education is to know God, the main method is discipleship, and the main text is the Bible. This is accomplished by the student learning how to inductively study (drawing out the truth by using research skills and good resources to answer clearly analytical questions). Because God is the Creator of all living and nonliving things, the goal is to seek a Biblical view in every subject by using the Bible as the main text. The teacher and students will use texts (even graded ones) & resources, as sources, for researching facts and information needed to answer the who, what, when, where, why, how questions for every topic or subject studied. The authors recommended resource list may vary for each SOW volume in some subjects but these are the basics …
* SOW Bible (Language Arts) (SOW I-VI)…
* SOW English (SOW I-VI)…
* SOW Spelling (SOW I-VI)…
* SOW Writing (SOW I-VI)…
* SOW Literature… (SOW I-VI: 6-12th)
Note: Literature resources should alternate between poems, fictional and non fictional books & short stories, & biographies, which have a strong moral message.
NOTE: The SOW subjects above have step by step lessons each week that correlate with the Bible. The SOW subjects below are alternately studied as unit studies with activities to complete. Though a Biblical view is sought, there was no way to correlate these subjects effectively and thoroughly to the Bible such as electricity in science, middle ages in history, United States in geography, nor the word apple for phonics.
* SOW Science (SOW I)…
Note: SOW Compatible, if use any curriculum or text that studies science by subject with a Biblical view. Activities should include report, diagram,, charts, reports, biographies, experiments, etc. IIf using a text that lacks in Biblical Creation, add Creation Science.
* SOW History (SOW I-VI)…
Note: SOW Compatible, if use any curriculum or text that studies history in chronological order with a Biblical view. Activities should include timeline, charts, reports, biographies, maps, illustrations, art projects, literature analysis, science experiment, cultural experience, missions, symbols, government, etc.
* SOW Geography (SOW I-VI)…
Note: SOW compatible, if you use any curriculum or text that studies geography by continent with a Biblical view. Activities should include timeline, charts, reports, biographies, maps, illustrations, art project, literature analysis, science experiment, cultural experience, missions, symbols, government, etc.
* SOW Electives…
SOW Resources are recommened for each subject but all can be substituted with your own favorites. Find resources used for best value through vendor fairs, local support grop, online used book vendors. For free resources, use public libraries & free online sources by just entering subject or topic.
Contact Merle Reece for any suggestions or help needed in locating or using resources…1225-590-3444 or firstname.lastname@example.org
Jesus has appeared to the disciples and commanded them to make disciples and that He will send them a comforter and a helper. The disciples are at the Lake of Galillee fishing all night, when Jesus from the shore aks them, if they caught any fish yet. He then tells them to cast their nets on the right side. They do it and their nets are so full they almost break. The disciple John recognizes the Lord and says so, but it is Peter, who zealously jumps into the water to greet Jesus. They have breakfast with Jesus on the shore and it is during this that Jesus turns to Peter and asks 3 times, “Peter do you love Me?” Peter hurt that he asks 3 times, answers Him each time, “Yes Lord, you know that I love you.”. Jesus 3 times tells Peter to “feed, tend, and shpherd His lambs/sheep”.
Jesus has one last life lesson in mercy, abiding, & obedience to teach the disciples, especially to Peter. Peter had betrayed Jesus 3 times on the night of His crucifixtion. Though Peter had repented and Jesus has told him to “fish for men” and that He will send a helper to accomplish the task, Peter and the disciples resorted to their old jobs of fishing for fish. But Jesus wanted Peter and the disciples to know that their past failures were forgiven and to finish the task He had given them, “Go and make disciples and teach them all that I commanded.” These are the life lessons Jesus taught His disciples and teaching us (all future disciples) … 1. “Abide in Me and you will bear much fruit for apart from Me you can do nothing.” They/we will not catch fish (men) without Jesus. Only by “walking by faith in God’s Spirit, truth, and love through Christ” can they/we accomplish the task God has given them/us to do. 2. ‘If you love Me, you will keep my commandments”. To please God, we must walk by faith in His Word. 3. “If you are my disciples, you will deny selk, take up the cross (complete your God given task), and follow Me.” He commands all of us to “follow Him” …be His disciple and make disciples. We are to be “Good Shepherds” of God’s flock.
Are we catching fish or men? Are we feeding, tending, and shepherding God’s flock, He has given each of us at home, work, school, church, etc..
“Lord, I want to… abide in You so that I will bear much fruit, walk by faith in your Spirit and your Word, and Your sheep that hears Your voice and follows You. In Jesus name!”
Anyone want to disciple and be discipled, contact me?
Summary of John 14…
At the Passover meal, Jesus told the disciples… He is going away and they can not follow, one of them will betray Him, and Peter will deny Him 3xs. The disciples are troubled, confused, and afraid. All of a sudden, their expectations, dreams, ideas, and thoughts about Jesus, their future, and their family and people’s future seem bleak and dark. Before He leaves, Jesus tells His disciples, these promises to comfort them…
- He is going to the Father.
- He is coming back for them.
- He has prepared a place for them with Him & the Father.
- He is the Way, Truth, and Life, no one comes to the Father except by Him.
- He will send an advocate/ helper/comforter, the Holy Spirit to teach them, so greater works will they do.
- He is allowing the Prince of the World to come, but he will not overcome them.
- He will give them peace, not as the world gives.
- He loves the Father and is doing His will.
The word “believe” is an action verb, therefore we must demonstrate we believe through our actions …
- If you believe in the Father, believe also in Me, so that I and the Father will be in you.
- If you ask anything in My name, Iwill give it to you.
- If you keep my commandments, you love Me.
When we are troubled, confused, afraid, God’s promises in His Word are for all who “believe and receive Jesus Christ”. The Holy Spirit, that inwells all believers, will teach and remind us of God’s promises. If we do what He asks, then, we will experience the peace of God and be overcomers through Christ. “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33
: something (such as a river, a fence, or an imaginary line) that shows where an area ends and another area begins
: a point or limit that indicates where two things become different
:unofficial rules about what should not be done : limits that define acceptable behavior
Knowing and setting boundaries I will not allow myself to cross. Regulating how others cross these boundaries is another matter. Even Jesus did not control what others could do with or to Him. For example… the Pharisees accused, mocked, and slandered Him. His disciples, Judas stole from Him and betrayed Him; Peter denied Him.
The key was that Jesus was always doing the Father’s will and He did everything out of love for others. Those two criteria gave Him boundaries, what He would not do or do. Jesus ate with tax collectors and prostitutes, healed on the Sabbath, etc. So He crossed conventional boundaries set by His religion and His nation.
I love all the responses that Jesus had…
- prayed often to the Father…alone in the mountains, before doing miracles, with Hid disciples in the Garden, etc..
- rebuked the Pharisees calling them “hypocrites”, His disciples saying to Peter “Get behind Me Satan.”, His family saying those who obey Him are His family.
- waited on God’s timing …raising Lazarus from the dead, going to Jerusalem, etc..
- stayed away from Bethany to raise Lazarus and stayed in Bethany till it was “His time”..
- did the will of the Father, no matter what.
- preached the gospel.
- taught the Word.
- made disciples.
- healed the sick.
- cast out demons
- talked to prostitutes
- visited tax collextors
- blessed His enemies
- spoke always in truth
His nation, His church, His family, His disciples all rejected Him…His first and my first priority was & is my relationship and walk with the Father!
We are free to walk as Jesus walked…
- PRAYing (Praising, Repenting, Asking, Yielding) to the Father first asking for wisdom which He promises to give to all that ask in faith.
- Some decisions or events need fasting (a denial of temporal pleasure for a season) and praying.
- Seek God’s Word for answers making sure it is not against God’s Word or His nature and character.
- Walk (think, say, act) in Spirit, truth, and love!
Note: Good wise counsel is always beneficial but I tell them I will respectfully listen and hear what they have to say about the matter, but I reserve the freedom not to take their advice or not without being condemned. No one (not my pastor, parents (after the age of release from obedience to honoring described in Scripture for chirlden/adults), husband, children, friends, etc.) can walk in your shoes except Jesus!
I believe God looks at the motives of our heart…His motivation and ours should be, before doing anything, was and is doing the Father’s will and loving others.
Jesus was not afraid; He knew the Father had sent Him and was with Him wherever He went. We have this same promise… “Do not be afraid; Be of good courage for I am with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:8, 9.
Francis Schaffer, a well known theologian, said this, “What we believe is how we shall live.” Therefore, we will start this presentation by declaring what we believe to be truth…
- Every person’s purpose in life is to “glorify God” to know Him through Jesus Christ and to make Him known.
- Parents are ordained by God to disciple “teach and train” their children “in the way that they should go”.
- Discipleship is the Biblical method used to educate “teach and train” each student to be complete in Christ…Spiritually, mentally, emotionally, academically, physically, & socially.
- The Bible is “inspired by God and good for training & teaching” in every subject.
- The teacher/pastor/mentor/coach’s job is to support and help the parents in their task to disciple (Biblically educate) their children.
- Demonstrating God’s love to others is the disciple of Christ’s highest goal in all relationships.
Since we believe these statements to be truth, as disciples (students) of Christ, we are “eager, obligated, and not ashamed”, to seek and implement a Biblical plan to disciple (reach and train) our God given students (children).
The SOW Curriculum is designed to disciple any student. The following are the SOW Curriculum’s many unique characteristics…
- Biblical vision…The goal is to know God; the method is discipleship, and the main text is the Bible.
- Accredited Resources … The recommended resources meet national standards for grades K-12th…Bob Jones, ABeka, Rod & Staff, IEW, AIG, & more.
- Integrated subjects …There is a unique focus on the Bible in every subject (not history, literature, principle, or doctrine) creating a special bond between all the subjects… spelling correlates with writing…writing to English, etc..
- Discipleship approach… Each student is taught how to pray, study the Bible inductively from Genesis to Revelations, obey the Scriptures, be a good steward, defend the faith, walk in the Spirit not the flesh, share the gospel, serve others, make wise decisions, and more.
- Individually paced learning… This is achieved through personal schedules, step by step lessons, one on one instruction, check outs, & various skill level worksheets and charts.
- Nondenominational …Utilizing parental guidance, inductive skills, critical thinking, various sources, the Bible (any version) as the main text, assures a nonbiased education.
- Multi-level instruction …Whole concepts & various skills transcend grades, abilities, or ages. For example, the first week all of the students will read and outline Genesis 1, study the character of God, a topical study on creation, science is Theology (study of God), writing “Proving the Existence of God”, Elective- A Banner of God’s names, and penmanship, Hebrew/ Greek, English and spelling skills are learned using the key Scripture verse, Genesis 1:1.
- Mastery of whole concepts & various skills… The language arts (Bible) section includes outlining, word study, topical study, setting, character study, & application.There are 12 kinds of writing… biography, poetry, letter, comparison, journal, etc.. History, science, & geography are unit studies that alternate and require the student to complete timelines, projects, diagrams, observations, experiments, reports, biographies, maps, surveys, and various studies of cultures and their resources, governments, arts, religions, etc.
- All students inclusive… K-12th, special needs, and/or English second language students learn by skill & concept repetition, step by step lessons, utilizing oral, drawing, & writing to communicate, and wisdom application.
- Family oriented…Devotions, co-ops, home management, multi-level learning, and special elective activities such as camping, holiday traditions, etc. create family unity with purpose.
- Life skill training … Ministry (elderly, sick, etc.), vocation (volunteer work with a veterinarian, electrician, nurse, lawyer, etc.), life (cooking house maintenance, etc.), single/marriage mentoring (women/men’s discipleship groups, workshops, books, etc.) are encouraged.
- Biblical view…Wisdom achieved not just knowledge acquired because the Bible is the main text & inductive skills are used in order to draw out the truth in every subject.
- Testing & evaluating…Diagnostic and/or achievement tests, student progress reports, & subject evaluations of completed lessons keep the parent & government officials informed of the student’s progress.
- Personal & home management … Schedules, student progress report, Spiritual/Carnal traits, time management, & other charts train the student for excellence in all areas of Christian living.
- Comprehensive education…There are step by step lessons in all the major subjects such as Bible, Prayer, Penmanship/Memory, Creative Writing, Literature, English, Spelling, Speech, plus various Electives, such as music, art, etc.. Science is taught by topic, geography by each continent, & history in chronologoical order; exception… Math is not included.
- Inductive method… Analytical questions (who, what, when, where, how, why), research (finding answers using various sources), critical thinking (recall, sequencing, comprehension, etc.), communication (speaking, drawing, writing), and application (observation, interpretation, application) are used to draw out the truth in every subject.
- Support system…Access to experienced and degreed educator to train & teach, answer questions, give advice, etc. via blogs, email, phone consultations, workshops, co-ops, online classes, etc..
- Easy Implementation…The SOW is written so that 6th-12th graders can independently use the SOW in every subject by following a specific schedule, scope & sequence, & lessons with skill level worksheets in every subject. These unique aspects of the SOW, also, make it easy for teachers to teach the instructional grade levels, K-5th.
- Friendly Budget… There is no need to purchase multiple texts for each grade level per subject and student (12 years x 7 subjects = at least 84 texts to purchase). The SOW resources recommended for each lesson in most subjects are used by all the students regardless of age or grade and for multiple years … dictionary for spelling, English handbook, encyclopedia for geography, etc..
In conclusion, Jesus’ last words to His discipls were, “Go and make disciples teaching them all that I commanded…” When we became “Students Of the Word” by depending on God’s Spirit and focusing on His Word our way of thinking and living were changed. I remember teaching Matt 7, “Love your enemies, pray for those who despitefully use you, and bless those who curse you.” the traditional way… not literally but figuratively, my son who was 7 at the time. Corrected me, saying that it explained in Scriptures what Jesus meant… :to turn the other check when slapped and to give your coat when asked.”
We were and have been tested many times with this command. Example, neighbor’s drums and a neighborhood bike gang. It is not always easy to be a follower of Jesus but it promises great rewards, if we walk by faith in His Word and Spirit… “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, patience, kindness, goodness, and self control.” Galatians Regardless of the choices our children, when they leave our home, or other families make, are we prepared to say, “As for me and my house, we choose the Lord.”
The SOW Curriculum consists of…
- SOW TE/RE & SE Editions: Volume I
- SOW TE & SE Editions: Volumes II-VI
- SOW Skill Level Worksheets…K-5th, 6th-12th, and Advanced.
- Various SOW Workshops …”Why Christians should Homeschool…the Vision!” “The Uniqueness of SOW”, & “How to SOW K-5th, 6th-12th, & Advanced”, “SOWing with Special Needs”, “Home Management”, “Planning and Implementing Goals”, etc.
For more information, contact Merle Reece… email@example.com and/or visit the SOW website… http://www.sowcurriculum.com/ .
Check out the SOW blog for interesting articles such as “How SOWing changed an autistic child’s life” … http://sowcurriculum.com/blog/?p=771
Since we began homeschooling our children, we have had the opportunity to meet and fellowship with hundreds of homeschoolers. We have noticed some common attitudes and interests among the movement as a whole. In general, we have observed there are two main forces motivating parents to homeschool. The two forces could be characterized by the terms reactionary and visionary.
The reactionary motive characterizes a family who is reacting against something negative which their child could be exposed to outside the home. This could be the violence, drugs, and immorality prevalent in schools today, the poor quality of education, the high cost of private school, or some other major concern. Many times it is a combination of these concerns. Whatever the cause, the result is the same–a strong conviction not to expose their child or family to negative influences. This reactionary posture has positioned them against something rather than for something.
The visionary motive is characterized by a family which is moving with a purpose. They sense a divine call from God to raise a godly heritage–one that is built on a foundation which cannot be moved, the word of God. Education is not a burden forced on them, but a stewardship entrusted to them by God.
God is calling every Christian parent to be not only reactionary, but visionary as they educate their children. It is true, that God uses reactionary situations to get our attention. However, once we see the problem, we also need to see the solution. God is not merely calling us away from something; He is calling us to something. God is more concerned that we see the great picture. Our calling as Christians is to know God and make Him known. He has already provided the method to accomplish this purpose. Jesus’ last words before He ascended into heaven were to all His disciples “make disciples”. As Christians and disciples of Christ, we need to be obedient to this great commission and make disciples of our children. “All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth. Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Matthew 28:18-20
We believe, Jesus Christ is the master of all teachers, so we should teach our children “to observe all things that He has commanded”. His commandments are found in the Word- the Bible. If we determine in our hearts to seek God’s purpose and method for educating our children, then we can be assured His desire is for them to be… “Students Of the Word.” “I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing … if you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you. By this is My Father glorified, that you bear much fruit; so you will be my disciples.” John 15.-5,7-8
The SOW (Student Of the Word) K-12th Curriculum is a practical tool that helps the visionary Christian parent reach the goal of raising disciples…a godly heritage unto the Lord. As we set out to develop a Bible centered curriculum that would disciple our children according to the Word of God, we knew there would be a cost involved with that decision. We chose what we considered to be a higher call than norm. In the New Testament, there was a cost when people chose to follow Christ. Many times it meant death or giving up worldly things in order to pursue God’s Kingdom. “And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or lands, for My name’s sake, shall receive a hundredfold, and inherit eternal life.” Matthew 19:29
Personally, we believed, we could not disciple our children fully, unless, we homeschooled … being actively involved in the setting of goals, implementing a plan, scheduling their time, demonstrating how to be a disciple of Christ, and overseeing all their activities and relationships. When we made the decision to homeschool, we stepped out in faith. If you decide to make disciples and not just educate your children by teaching them the Bible using a Bible-centered curriculum, then you have chosen to put studying God’s word above every other subject. This does not mean that the other subjects are discarded. However, it does mean that your first objective is to raise godly children in this world, regardless of their abilities, their choice of vocation, or single or married. “By faith Moses, when he became of age, refused to be called the son of Pharaoh’s daughter, choosing rather to suffer affliction with the people of God than to enjoy the passing pleasures of sin, esteeming the reproach of Christ greater riches than the treasures in Egypt; for he looked to the reward.” Hebrews 11:24-26. In fact, you will find that God gives His children, who obey Him, favor and blessing wherever they go.
In conclusion, we believe; God raises men up for His service. As Christians, our purpose is to glorify and serve God, not ourselves. As we commit our homes and families to the Lord and continue to sow God’s word into our children, we are confident God will give each of us wisdom and reward those who seek His kingdom first.“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added to you.” Matthew 6:34.
Biblical principles about anger, I have learned and practicing…
1. “The anger of man does not accomplish the righteousness of God.” Nothing good comes out of anger. In fact it creates the opposite results; it is destructive.
2. Anger is sin (not God like but self indulgent) so when I do it, I need to confess to God and the offended that I have sinned. “if we confess our sins, he is faithful to forgive them and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
3. “A soft answer turns away wrath.” Practice giving calm, truthful replies to the situation or person. It is better to say nothing.
4. Leave the situation physically or mentally (closing your eyes or ears) and ask God for the power to overcome this sin and for wisdom in the situation. Do not return till ready to minister in peace (a calm place of mind)..
5. Isolate or separate the offenders and have them read, meditate, or memorize Scripture about anger. Ask yourself, ”What is God saying or want me to do?” Jesus went alone to the mountain top often; we need our mountain tops with God.
6. Let God fight your battles with prayer. By faith pray over the situation, person, etc. Do not worry or be anxious about anything but with thanksgiving let your request be known to God and the peace of God that surpasses all comprehension shall guard your heart and mind in Christ jesus.”
7. “A wise woman builds up her house.” Set boundaries or rules with consequences of actions for yourself and others such as …Do not talk or answer or give anything to a person who is whining, screaming, etc..
8. “Love, pray, and bless your enemies”. Find ways to “bless” do good towards the other person with what you say and do like hugs and kisses, or saying “God oves you;I love you”.
9. You and your loved ones do a personal study from the Bible on anger vs peace. Place Scripture around the house…bathroom mirrors, refrigerator door, car dashboard, etc.
10. “Choose life not death, good not evil, blessing not cursing”. “As for me and my house, we will choose to serve the Lord.”
Praying for us all to “walk in Spirit, truth , and love.”